Relationship Stressors
What You Might Notice:
“Communication in my relationship is really difficult. I find myself shutting down or blowing up when things aren’t going well. I wish I could communicate more effectively.”
“I find it hard to feel as emotionally connected to my partner as I’d prefer. I care about my partner and would like to explore why this is the case.”
“I often wonder if there is something wrong in my relationship, even when there isn’t. It creates problems and I wish I could relax enough to enjoy my relationship.”
“I’m unhappy with my partner. It feels lonely, uncertain, and exhausting to continue to discuss the same problems over and over. I’d like more clarity about the relationship in my mind.”
“I’m starting a new relationship and I’m really hoping to build some new, healthy patterns.”
“I am working through a divorce. I want support in navigating this process and rebuilding myself in a healthier way.”
“Adjusting to parenthood is way harder than I thought it would be. I don’t feel like myself and feel pulled in too many different directions. I’d like support in exploring my identity as a parent and as a person outside of being a parent.
“I grew up with a parent who was emotionally unavailable or immature. I think this still impacts me, but I really can’t pinpoint how. I’d like to explore it further.”
How We Find Relief
Building Understanding: First, we explore patterns in current and prior relationships. As a psychologist who has done a great deal of work with families, I have a deep understanding of how our early relationships with caregivers can impact us as adults (even when we aren’t totally aware of it). We will build your understanding of how your relationships with caregivers shaped the way you show up in relationships today. We will explore patterns in romantic relationships and discuss what works for you and what you’d like to change.
Self-Compassion: Relationship difficulties can be incredibly painful. We will learn and practice strategies to be kind and compassionate with yourself as you’re managing relationship stressors.
Skills Work: This might include communication skills, assertiveness, perspective taking, or emotion identification/regulation.
Exploring Values: Values can be viewed a “life compass.” We will explore your values in life and in relationships. We will decide on actionable steps you can take to create a life more in line with your values.
